
There’s a dark side?
Being a perfectionist is good, isn’t it? It means you do something right, first time and every time and it’s something a lot of people aspire to. Well, actually perfection is a highly overrated goal which can disrupt your working life and kill your dreams.
First, to do something perfectly usually takes a lot of effort. You do it, re-do it, re-re-do it and it’s still not quite right, and you’re way over your deadline. The people relying on you find this frustrating, even if your work is totally flawless – they’re held up by your strive for an ideal when they would have been just as satisfied with an on-time result that gave them what they wanted. They’ll stop getting you to do work for them and you may find yourself moved on.
The solution to this is to know that a ‘perfect’ job is one that exactly meets the expected level of results. If you’re going to be perfect at something, be perfect at finding out what that level is and meeting it, rather than applying your own exacting, and possibly inaccurate, measures.
The real dark side
The second problem with being a perfectionist is that it causes you to delay or, worse still, not start things because you fear you won’t be able to do a perfect job straight away.
As you progress through life, you naturally get better at things, and you grow accustomed to finding success at a decreasing range of activities.
As a child, you put in a huge amount of effort into learning to walk, and most of that time was spent on your backside. Most adults would not put that much effort into learning something, especially if they had such setbacks – they’d say ‘I’m just not good at this – it didn’t work for me the first time, I’ll go back to something I know I can do’.
At work, you may stick to the job you know, even though it’s boring, because you think, quite rightly, that you won’t be perfect in that challenging new job immediately. Or you might put off doing that huge paper because you know you won’t be happy with the first draft – suddenly it’s due and your job’s on the line.
Say you dream of becoming an artist, or a writer, or a tennis ace. But knowing the amount of work that will be needed before you reach a level of average proficiency, you don’t try at all. All that effort, just to become average?
So what’s the answer?
Realise what world champions, and toddlers, already know – no-one’s perfect the first time at something new. Keep working on it and you’ll start to see small, ever-increasing successes that will spur you on and reinforce your efforts – the occasional really good brush-stroke, a pretty great turn of phrase or a better than average tennis serve.
And keep trying – don’t let the dark side of perfectionism prevent you from chasing your dreams.
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